Dear angry atheist: an open letter

Dear angry atheist: an open letter


Dear angry atheist,

I get it why you are angry at me. May be you were brought up by bad religion, may be you were taught to believe in God and you didn’t feel anything, may be your prayers went unanswered, may be you are a big fan of hitches and Dawkins. May be you just do not like the idea of  a God in the first place, may be you are scared of hell, may be you are a free thinker who despises boundaries and commandments in a book called Bible, may be you are confused which God is to be followed. May be you went though something bad, or may be you are too sensitive and can not comprehend the idea of God and an evil world, may be you just like free sex, may be you are a very good person who does not need God, may be you live better than most Christians, may be you think you are above others, intellectually or may be you just don’t give a fuck. For whichever reasons you are an atheist, is none of my business.

I am also sure you are a human being who is honest to his doubts and convictions, I respect that. I also realize that not all atheists are angry people. But when you talk to me like an angry atheist, it certainly makes me think hard about what have I done to you personally?I am not asking for agreement, merely civility. Though sometimes you are civil, most of the times, you attribute my faith with words like:

fuck you, fucker, unicorn, Santa, tooth-fairy, zombie, cruel, idiotic, blind, worthless, shit, crap, bullshit, stories, pathetic, weak, less intelligent, having low I.Q, rigid, nutcase and perhaps many more. 

Who died and made you an authority on faith? Who are you to say it to anyone? how is it your business what I should believe in? if you want to ban my belief from everywhere, does it not make you intolerant as well?

You think you are up for free thought and speech for all? then show it. By all means, disagree, dissect and analyse but do not insult people. Would it sound nice if I lump all atheists in one sweeping stroke and call them, fuckers or a**holes? Would you like personally, being compared to Stalin, Mao and Pol pot? Would you agree that it is a fair assessment to say that all atheist are stupid just because some atheists are dumb?

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Then why would you attribute all of this nonsense to me? Don’t you think you are insulting my intelligence, my faith and my opinion? If you want your view to be respected at least(if not condoned), would it harm you if you could grant me the same courtesy.

If you are as intelligent and intellectual as you think you are you would see the wisdom of being civil and polite. It would cost you nothing. People will actually listen to you. You would do more good to atheism if instead of saying, I don’t believe in unicorns, you talk to people and listen. Listen to why they have faith and then go on and speak your mind.

If you have made up your mind before you know what you are talking about then its plain stupid. Because of you I have stopped taking atheists seriously. Your anger in my opinion has caused more harm than good. You are making the gap between us more and more wide, when all I expect is respect and I am more than happy to give you back the same.

Dear angry atheist, please do not let your hatred and anger, cloud your manners and politeness. May be you don’t give a fuck, but still, the hatred in you can not go on for long. In the end hate and anger will corrupt your reason to the point where you will be an extremist. No different from what perhaps made you hate religion in the first place, some people who were extremists without reason.

You are free to believe what you want, should not I have the same right as yours?

Ah! but you are angry at me for making you suffer religion. I know some of us have gone to great lengths to make some trouble for you, if you are gay, they do not want you to marry, if you are against prayer, they are in favor of it, may be they shout in your face about how you will end up in hell, may be you disgust them. But please remember, they are wrong for treating you like this, they do not represent all of us. So do not stereotype all of us as it would be wrong as you would not want to be stereotyped as well.

It is a battle ground out there and my only hope it that we remain respectful, two wrongs do not make a right. An eye for an eye only makes the whole world go blind.

Anyone can be a loudmouth, there is nothing great or fantastic about it. And when you are at it you are not at your best and you fail at conveying what you wanted to say.  If I wanted to, I could have named this post “Dear Atheist, shut the fuck up” and that thought came to me for a moment because I saw something like “Religious people shut the fuck up” written somewhere, but I didn’t because that is not how I truly feel I should treat you and we cannot respect each other and live together, if we are at war all the time.

I do not hate you, even if you disagree with me. I hope you can grant me the same favor.

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10 thoughts on “Dear angry atheist: an open letter

  1. Thank you John for writing this post i guess so many atheists need to know that Christianity is not about hating people but loving and accepting them.

  2. I appreciate that you needed to vent, but I want to point out a few things you did that would raise the hackles of any conversational partner:
    In your first paragraph you omitted the reason that many atheists actually relate to; ‘maybe you haven’t seen evidence for God’. When you misrepresent people, and it is that conspicuous, some tempers will fray. The fact you didn’t swear does not mean you did not insult. Some of the options you offer are very insulting.
    Although your list of insults made against you clearly include some that are aimed at the person (and not the argument or the idea), some of them are likely not to be personal. You do need to have skin thick enough to make that distinction.
    We (atheists) are frequently compared to Stalin and Mao. Not only is this insult thing a two way street, but the example you give is the things atheists receive most often (along with threats of going to hell).

    1. Thank you for reading, Allallt.

      I omitted that reason because that is not a reason one should be angry about. That is an intellectual reason, not an emotional one. If you haven’t seen evidence and I have then I guess we disagree, no reason for you to be angry at me for what I believe. I am not talking to all atheists only the ones which vent out and trash talk.

      And you are right but that is the thing, very few insults are against the idea itself, most are just personal ones. Come on, take your pick. Faith is something personal Allalt, when you insult someone’s faith you are indirectly insulting them, their observation, conviction, faith and intelligence. Insults are always personal. There is no distinction to be made. I have kept out the rational arguments which would be “not personal”.

      Its not about which faith you are treating as a joke, its how you tell them what you believe. It is irrelevant if the insult is aimed at the person or the argument, as I said earlier faith is always a personal matter. You can disagree politely with them, but if you insult then sure its going to get personal.

      Atheists are often compared to Stalin because a lot of Christians are compared to Hitler. No one should be compared to anyone plus, the threatening with hell part is also sad and you wont find it here.

      have a good day.

    2. I think ‘reasons to be an atheist’ and ‘reasons to be angry at religious people’ are perhaps getting mixed up a bit here? I know my reasons for being an atheist have nothing to do with the reasons I am sometimes angry at religious folks.

      Anyway, I do agree that it’s not ok to be saying ‘all Christians are stupid’ any more than it is to be saying ‘all atheists are stupid’ or ‘all Muslims are stupid’.

  3. “So do not stereotype all of us as it would be wrong as you would not want to be stereotyped as well.”

    These words, and the words immediately preceding them, are why I believe we’ll probably get along quite well.

    I will freely admit that I have been quite harsh to a number of believers. I’m harsh to believers who simultaneously assert knowledge of something they evidently have zero knowledge of (usually the sciences).

    I am curious, based on your evident freethinking, why you also believe.

    Great blog my man…

  4. Glad we agree on some. and thank you once again for the compliment. I have a number of very good atheist friends. I was once harsh too to atheists, but I could not keep all of that anger within me for long. It profits no one.

    Just for the record I am an ex-atheist. And during my struggle to faith I have stood on the edge of faith more than often, just deciding whether to let go or not. It still happens today. And it is not because I have doubts, everyone has doubts, its because intellectual honesty must meet faith and then let the chips fall where they may.

    I guess there are good arguments on both sides. I think both sides do not always fully understand what they are actually attacking which results in less discussion and more misconceptions. I am not a big fan of circular debates so I tend not to start those.

    And yes many believers do not fully understand science but that is the same because many atheists do not understand faith as well. More than often both sides are fenced in such a way that they have to defend positions which are stereotypical and strawmen.

    And I agree with you, many people do show ignorance, theists and atheists alike. I hope this can be lessened.

    cheers.
    🙂

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